It has widely been reported that former President George H. W. Bush, or “Bush 41” as he is called, served as a witness at a gay marriage ceremony in Maine. The newlyweds were some of his long time friends.
I think most conservatives thought that they could count on the Bushes to uphold conservative Christian values. The AP article I read1 revealed that, other than the two elder Bushes, Laura, her daughter Barbara, and Dick Cheney all support gay marriage (Cheney’s daughter is gay). President George W. seems to have retreated into an “I won’t answer that question because I’m not in politics” mode, and Jeb apparently thinks the state should decide and that we all need to be supportive of non-traditional families. All of this is disappointing but not all that surprising. It is the rare leader these days who sticks to his values in the midst of this headhunting, fragile, self-infested American culture.
What should one do when he or she is called on to attend or participate in a same-sex wedding? Let me answer it this way: By attending, and certainly by witnessing or serving as an attendant, singing, etc., you are saying “I support gay marriage.” If that is your stance then you have your answer. If you do not support same-sex marriage but you participate anyway, then you have compromised your integrity and registered your support. Congratulations, you’re like everyone else!
Abstaining from participating in a same-sex wedding does not have to mean that you do not love the people involved or that you are trying to sever your relationship with that person. It does mean that you have decided to take your friend or friends or family members seriously by loving them enough to be honest and not compromise your integrity. Unfortunately, the voiced lack of support for homosexuality or same-sex marriages is equated with hate, so if you stick to your convictions you will pay.
In our culture today, the thing we dread the most is disapproval. We have therefore practically legalized approval. It is becoming mandatory that all groups everywhere must be approved by all people everywhere. God forbid that someone should voice their disapproval of someone else’s lifestyle, thus causing them to experience the excruciating pain that comes with introspection!