My Friend Steve Routh

Steve Routh, 1978, Sophmore

My friend Steve Routh died today. Covid. Ventilator. Untimely.

I’m sad about his passing. I know he is with the Lord. And it isn’t that Steve and I were in constant contact. He was one of those friends that if you hadn’t seen him for forty years you’d pick up right where you left off.

But I am sadder than I would normally be. I think it’s because there seems to be a shortage of people like Steve in this world. There is certainly a shortage of them in my own life.

My first memory of Steve is math class in high school. I think it was in Mike Priddy’s geometry class. We had an instant appreciation for one another and we were friends from then on. Then he married one of our good Church of God girls, Trudy Pruitt. That made him part of the family.

John Donne’s Meditation #17 came to mind today. You can read it below. Essentially, Donne is saying when the bell rings out that another person has died, it is really tolling for all of us. Why? Because we are all connected. He uses the continent of Europe as his example, saying if a mountain or even a small clod of dirt were washed away by the sea, both are losses because both were a part of the continent.

Today, I feel sadness and loss because Steve was a part of the continent of my life. Steve’s death diminishes me and I feel it today. Rest In Peace my friend.

No man is an island, entire of itself; every man is a piece of the continent, a part of the main.

If a clod be washed away by the sea, Europe is the less, as well as if a promontory were, as well as if a manor of thy friend’s or of thine own were: any man’s death diminishes me, because I am involved in mankind,

And therefore never send to know for whom the bell tolls; it tolls for thee.

Categories: Reflection

22 replies

  1. I understand how you feel, missing someone who was a part of your past. Add to that feeling times 100 for someone who was a huge part of your life. God is faithful through it all!

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  2. He was truly one of a kind, always eager to help anyone with no recognition sought. It’s truly a sad day!

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  3. He was truly a Godly man with a sense of humor , such good memories at Lakeview with our gang, He will be missed but oh what rejoicing he is doing🙏♥️🙏

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  4. Yes, Steve was a very special man.. as you said Julie a part of our gang at Lakeview!! I love this message Scott Fowler!! We are sad today but will be rejoicing again together with Jesus!! We have HIS promise!

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  5. I remember Steve and Trudy from my time at Lakeview they were truly a precious couple I know he will be missed praying for Trudy and family

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  6. I know you will miss your friend. Knowing that he feasts with The Lord today does not diminish your loss. I grieve with thee.

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  7. Beautifully written, Scott!

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  8. Beautifully words, such a nice tribute.
    I’m always at a loss for words when someone so special passes, ” I’m sorry for your loss ” just doesn’t seem to convey enough sympathy or empathy.
    I know the feeling of the hole in ours hearts that is caused by losing a friend. I’ve often thought that hole in out heart is a place meant for us to fill with good memories of that person that makes us smile, and over time the hole will become a treasure chest filled with the love we had for the people we lost.
    I am sincerely sorry and it makes me sad that your sad.

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  9. Sorry for your loss Pastor Scott. May God comfort you and all those that knew Steve.

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  10. Beautifully said!

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  11. So sorry to hear of his passing. Good friends and family members are especially hard. Praying for his family for peace in this time of sorrow.
    I pray you and your family are well.


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